Kissing
Grave is a Sunnat of Sahab (Radia Allahu Tala Anhum)
There are two kinds of kissing, one for love and other for
respect and adoration.
Love is possible with
living person and due to the relation and connection of the living person, love
is also possible with dead person.
For love kissing is
natural. Islam is called 'Deen-E-Fitrat' (Religious Habit). Parents love their
children (kiss them). Hazrat Rasool-E-Paak (S.A.W.) kissed Sahebzade Sayedna
Ibrahim (R) again and again at the time of his passing away from the world.
Hazrat Rasool-E-Paak (S.A.W.) used to kiss Hazrat Sayedna Imam Hassan (A.S.) to
his lips and on the neck of Hazrat Syedna Imam Hussain.
For respect and adoration kissing is proved by
Quran .
Allah says,
"Those who pay respect to the emblems of Allah, is the abstention
of hearts. To love and emblems means, to love the Quran, to love the Kaba, to
love prophet (Alaihissalam) and to all those things which keep relation and
connection with Allah Paak. Even Auliya Allah also present is emblem".
To kiss in Hajj and
Umrah is also mentioned in Fatava-E-Alamgiri. It is written that
"Rasool-E-Paak (S.A.W.) had done himself and said that "When you
enter in Khana-E-Kaba, at first, kiss the threshold. So, to pay respect the
souls is legal.
When Moosa Alaihissalam went to 'Kohetoor' (name of the
hill) he heard a voice,
It means
"It is no doubt
that I am your Lord (Rabb) so you put off your shoes." (For respect and
adoration).
Here I am exhibiting Hadees about to kiss the tombs (Mazaar)
and to pay respect :
PROOF 1
It is also narrated that Mu`adh ibn Jabal and Bilal came to the grave of the
Prophet and sat weeping, and the latter rubbed his face against it.► Ibn Majah 2:1320, Ahmad, al-Tabarani, al-Subki, and Ibn `Asakir
PROOF 2
Dawud ibn Salih said: "[The
governor of Madina] Marwan [ibn al-Hakam] one day saw a man placing his face on
top of the grave of the Prophet. He said: "Do you know what you are doing?" When
he came near him, he realized it was Abu Ayyub al-Ansari. The latter said: "Yes; I came to the Prophet, not to a
stone.,► Ibn Hibban in his Sahih, Ahmad (5:422),
►Al-Tabarani in his Mu`jam al-Kabir (4:189) and his Awsat according to Haythami
in al-Zawa'id (5:245 and 5:441 #5845 Book of Hajj, "Section on the
honoring of the dwellers of Madina, chapter on placing one's face against the
grave of our Master the Prophet " and #9252 Book of Khilafa, "Chapter
on the leadership of those unworthy of it"),
►al-Hakim in his Mustadrak (4:515);
► both the latter and al-Dhahabi said
it was sahih.
► It is also cited by al-Subki in Shifa' al-siqam (p. 126)
►and Ibn Taymiyya in al-Muntaqa (2:261f.)
Imam al-Dhahabi said: "Ahmad ibn Hanbal was asked about touching the Prophet's grave and kissing it
and he saw nothing wrong with it. His son 'Abd Allah related this from him. If it is asked:
"Why did the Companions not do this?" ]We reply: "Because
they saw him with their very eyes when he was alive, enjoyed his presence
directly, kissed his very hand, nearly fought each other over the remnants of
his ablution water, shared his purified hair on the day of the greater
Pilgrimage, and even if he spat it would virtually not fall except in someone's
hand so that he could pass it over his face. Since we have not had the tremendous fortune of sharing in
this, we throw ourselves on his grave as a mark of commitment,
reverence, and acceptance, even to kiss it. Do you not see what Thabit al-Bunani did when he kissed the
hand of Anas ibn Malik and placed it on his face saying: "This is the hand
that touched the hand of the Messenger of Allah "? Muslims are not moved
to these matters except by their excessive love for the Prophet , as they are
ordered to love Allah and the Prophet more than their own lives, their
children, all human beings, their property, and Paradise and its maidens. There
are even some believers that love Abu Bakr and 'Umar more than themselves.
[Al-Dhahabi, Mu'jam al-Shuyukh (1:73 #58).]
"'Abd Allah ibn Ahmad said: "I
saw my father take a hair that belonged to the Prophet , put it on his mouth,
and kiss it. I believe I saw him put it on his eyes. He also dipped it
in water and drank the water to obtain cure. I saw him take the Prophet's bowl
(qas'a), wash it in water, and drink from it. I saw him drink Zamzam water in
order to seek cure with it, and he wiped his hands and face with it." I
say: Where is the quibbling critic of Imam Ahamad now?
It is also authentically established that 'Abd Allah asked is father about
those who touch the pommel of the Prophet's e pulpit and touch the wall of the
Prophet's e room, and he said: "I do not see any harm in it." May Allah protect
us and you from the opinion of the Khawarij and from innovations!
[ Al-Dhahabi, Siyar A'lam al-Nubala' (9:457). Ch. on Imam Ah.mad, section
entitled Min adabih]
In the Holy Quran
Sura "Yunus" Ayat 62 the verse says:-
Behold! Verily on friends of Allah, there is no fear, nor
they shall grieve.
Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) has said in
Hadith Qudsi quoted below:-
Allah has said " The most value worshiper of my
bondsman, seeking my nearness, is the one I have opposed on him; and my servant
continues to draws me near Me through the work of supererogation, until I love
him. And when I love him, I am his ears so that he hears Me, and his eyes so
that he sees Me, and his feet so he walks by Me, I am his hand so that he do
work by Me. When he raises his hand in the prayers,I grant his request, when he
seeks refuge unto Me, I protect him".
The most Merciful Allah has bestowed powers in them by which
whatever Aulia Allah thinks and says become " KUNFA YA KUN" ( be and
it become). Hundred of people have been declared as dead have been brought to
life by these Aulia Akram back to life again. Dead animal and birds has been
also restored to life again although their bodies have been deteriorated since
long. Thousand have been cured by them with out medicines including those
living far away from them. Prophet like Hazrat Easa and Hazrat Moosa would envy
their super-natural phenomena. They all are humble followers of Prophet
Mohammed (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) so low before the Prophet how great
would be they are. One wonder why people hesitate very much to pay due respect
to these great personality, spiritually perfect and enlightened ones------the
Saints, who have been laid to rest after their last breath on earth. Such
people had a strong feeling that to visit the shrine of a Saint tantamount of a
sin of "Shirk".
According to their belief, these Prophet & Saints who
have been laid to the rest has gone forever and nothing can be achieved from
them. Even their bodies have been eaten up leaving no trace behind the grave.
Further they have in their minds as to why should they seek any assistance or
fulfillment of their desires from them or from any one else even they have
enough of faith on Allah who the giver of Raizaq (food), cure (shifa), IIlm (
knowledge). No one can deny their on Allah of getting all the things from Him,
but do they all the things from Allah. If not, then why not? Few example and
conversation will convince them for change in their approach. To visit the
Aulia's (saints) to go to their Mazar (Durga, Tomb, Shrines), or to kiss their
hand, feet's, or their "Chaddar" covering place on their Mazar or
even to their request them for grant of wishes (Murad) or to seek their help to
solve the problems does amount to Shirk or Bidat. Remember that Saints are
alive and alert and have innumerable powers bestowed to them to them by the
Grace of Allah even though laid to rest. Similarly, It have been proved I our
other articles " The prove of Aulia (Saints)". A little bit of more
explanation will make people overcome the gross misunderstanding in their minds
who are allergic in matter of Shirk and Bidat.
Again let us start
with the following question:-
a) Is it a Shirk to kiss "Ghilaf" the outwards
covering of Kaaba Sharif?
b) Is it a Shirk to kiss "Hajra e Aswad" a stone
of Kaaba Sharif?
c) Is it a Shirk to kiss the Holy Quran the book of Allah?
d) Is it a Shirk to kiss Hands and Feet's of parents ?
e) Is it a Shirk to kiss our Children Facieses, hands ?
Now refer A) "Ghilaf of Kaaba is kissed by the visitors
performing Tawaf."
Tears are visible in their eyes when they touch the Ghilaf,
their lips utter prayers, their hearts throbs with emotion, through each one
known that the "Ghilaf" is made of material prepared by human hands
and it costs thousand of Riyals. The cost of the material has absolutely no
worth before them but real philosophy behind all these kissing's is the Holy
place covered with Ghilaf, through Kaaba itself is built of stone and
materials.
Now refer B) "Hajra e Aswad" a stone of Kaaba
Sharif and is kissed by the visitors performing Tawaf." Here is saying of
Hazrat Umar (r.a.u.) is worth quotation. Addressing the "Hajra e
Aswad", He said "O! Hajra e Aswad", I know thy worth is no more
than a piece of stone but since the Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)
kissed thee it becomes binding on me to follow in his foot "steps".
It has to be kissed either by lips or by show of hands in case o rush.
Now refer C) "HOLY QURAN" is printed on a piece of
paper and has it outer thick cover which looks like a book but is kissed by the
deepest reverence and emotion for very fact that right inside the revelation
from Allah. People don’t kiss Novels and story books, through they are made of
same material.
Now refer D&E) Hands, feet, faces are apparently noting
but bones covered by flesh, skin and hairs, but to a kisser it has a different
meaning he respect and loves those part of the body of beloved persons.
Well to a person who have no inside knowledge of the meaning
of these kissing's would thing that all these kissing's are ridiculous
ceremony, but to a person with sight all such kissing's are formalities is a
matter of love, sentiment, respect and honors. It is thus proved beyond doubt
that such kisses do not fall in the category of Shirk or Bidah in any manner.
